December 06, 2004

Woke up at 730am today. Ya, I've been telling everyone I talked to this morning about this, like I just broke some guinness world record. When actually, I wake up at 6.15am when I have to work.

Anyway, since I'm up and Wenn is on a half day leave at home, we chatted on MSN and came up with the following discussion.

Love & dating...26

Finding a partner is not quite the same as going to a buffet, or is it?

Walk through the many linen-lined tables with fine crockery, take in all that food (choices), and only eat those you like (select those qualities you like in a partner) and leave those you don't like (filter away those qualities you don't like in a partner). Someone will even clear up the mess and leftovers (the break up) for you.

But, maybe it is quite the same too. Because we usually check out the kinda cuisine and the quality of the food (in general) before deciding on which buffet spread to feast at. Akin to choosing a partner, there has to be some proactivity before you expect to have choices. At the minimal, you got to know how much you are willing to pay for the buffet (how ready are you for a relationship) and you got to decide that you are indeed going for a buffet lunch/dinner.

Reach the place. Usually, we would go for an orientation round to see what kinda spread it is and if it whets our appetite. Then, we would dig in. We choose the ones that either sound good or look good first (tis round, we're looking for some extrinsic qualities). Bring it back to the table. Some may indeed taste as good as it look (so we realise some intrinsic qualities here). Some are just good on the outside (so we reject and make a mental note not to take anymore of that dish).

Then, we go for 2nd round. We would probably end up with things that are more common place and looks more 'down-to-earth'. At the same time, maybe just a piece more of those that we liked the first time round (retaining expectations). Then, sometimes, we find that hey! The more common things and less fanciful looking or sounding things are actually much nicer (so, looks do deceive).

By this time, we usually have a rough idea of what are the dishes that are nice and what are not (meaning the taste, not looks anymore, therefore the intrinsic qualities). We may go back for more or we may not. But there will come a point when we find ourselves full and contented. There might be some leftovers, which the waitress will clear away promptly (too much of anything is always not a good idea). The best part of a buffet is when your tummy is feeling quite contented and you can just sip on the iced water while chatting with whoever is your company.

There are also some people who will make it a point not to eat things like bread or plain common place stuff at buffet, cos it simply doesn't make the money's worth. But, the good thing about buffet is when you go in a group, everyone can share. So, you may take something from your friend's plate that you won't take for yourself, just to try. Then, you find that hey! this is good stuff. It's important to be open minded about trying new means of meeting new people, like being match-made or going on blind dates. Of cos, sometimes you end up confirming that your friend has strange taste in food. But, the point is... at long as you don't get tummy upsets after all these eating, it's still the process that matters.

So... bon appetit!




Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 11:00